Birthdays are not for sissies.

I had a birthday recently.  I’ve also been a little sad of late.  Are the two connected?  I don’t really know.  Maybe.  My mom did not age gracefully.  She fought it like a tiger.  I asked her once if she had thought of having a “friend” or another husband.  Her answer was classic Mom:  “I’ve thought of it but the way I see it I’m too old to get a younger man and I don’t want an older one.  I DON’T LIKE OLD MEN!”  I decided to rib her a little and told her that she was, in fact, an old woman.  She stood her ground as she told me she knew that but “I STILL DON’T LIKE OLD MEN!”  I conceded and I don’t think I ever mentioned it again.

I’m not sure why I brought this up or where I’m going with it but I will tell you that I don’t dislike old men as long as they don’t act old.  I think that order gets taller the more birthdays I have.  Now I shall return to this most recent birthday celebration.

Through and throughout the malaise of depression sadness I never lose sight of the fact that I’m very fortunate to have family and friends who are kind and giving and supportive.  Witness the beautiful rose bouquet pictured above or the chocolate-covered strawberries (right) which were delivered to my front door.  Yum!  Equally important are the thoughts and wishes that aren’t or can’t be pictured here.  Lunch out AND dinner cooked in by my best buddy who loves me no matter what dumb thing I might say or do.  All-girl family dinner with two daughters and two granddaughters where we named the worst and best things about our day and some of us couldn’t think of a worst.  How great is that!  A Barnes and Noble gift card to cover my nook-book purchases for quite some time.  Hugs and kisses from my Latino friends and a loud “Happy Birthday to You” sung in Spanish.  The Face Book greetings, the phone calls and the snail mail printed cards.  The handmade cards made by the grandchildren.  My favorite birthday quote comes from a card my grandson F made:  “I hope you have a great birthday but I know that it will be great because you are with the people who love you.”  My second favorite comes from a card his little sister S made:  “On your birthday, can you take me to the toy store?”

Life is good.  As I wind down this little essay I leave you with what I consider to be my funniest card.


22 thoughts on “Birthdays are not for sissies.

  1. Hey Pat, a belated happy birthday to you. I’m glad you managed to have a good day, in spite of the current relative gloom. I love your mom’s attitude, and your funny card: it is great!
    What’s your take on an old man who doesn’t act old and would care to get closer to you? I’m curious…
    Anyway, on a lighter note, I’ve “tagged” you, it’s one of those slightly viral type things doing the rounds in the blogosphere at the moment. If you find the time, I’d love to read your answers to my tricky questions
    Take care,


  2. Thanks, Rose. I kinda had to write about my birthday because it seemed intertwined with my sadness this year. Fortunately, the bd and the sadness have moved on. Hugs to you too. Hope you’ve had a good day.


  3. Your mom’s comment about older men makes me smile and remember an ex-boyfriend’s comment about older women: “Just because we get older doesn’t mean our taste does!”

    Appropriately, I was 21 to his 37.

    Belated happy birthday wishes. I hope the sadness runs its course before too long.


  4. Being surrounded by loving and supportive friends really makes a difference, doesn’t it. Wishing you many more Happy Returns, dear Pat.
    My husband is nearly 77 but acting much younger. There are times when I think to have a good relationship you don’t necessarily have to live together 24/7..


  5. ´*•.¸(*•.¸♥¸.•*´)¸.•*´
    ♥«´¨`•°..Happy Belated Birthday to you…Happy Belated Birthday to you…Happy Belated Birthday dear Pat…Happy Belated Birthday to you..°•´¨`»♥

    Do you get sad when your ice cream falls from your cone?? Me too…you’e not old. 🙂 Sounds like you had a GREAT birthday! You are blessed.


    • Awww. Thank you, Amy. i don’t know how you do all that fancy printing but it’s certainly festive and beautiful.

      Man! That’s the worst–dropping the scoop off the cone. 🙂


  6. Happy Birthday Pat. Your post and your cards are wonderful. As for older men I don’t think it matters what age a man is if someone has, oh what do you call it, charisma, no that’s not it – oh you know what I mean. Some men just have it no matter what age they are…. keep you eye out for him. J x


  7. Lovely, lovely post. The cards are killer; especially the last one. As for MEN, you could easily pass for 15-20 years younger, so that opens up a wide possibility of not-old fella’s for you.


    • Thank you, Caroline. I certainly didn’t expect you to remember my birthday. I found that I just had to write about it because it was in the middle of, and intertwined with, my sadness. Hope it wasn’t too much of a downer.


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