Those of us who are surviving/have survived unwanted divorce have a rather lengthy list of abhorrent things done unto us. Most of the time I classify myself as one who has survived. But every once in a while something new comes up that triggers my anger all over again. When the anger kicks in , the desire for revenge kicks in, and momentarily I feel as if I’m back at square one.
This week I had to pay more than $900 in back taxes on a piece of property here in town. The tax collector’s office tells me that the parcel was deeded to me only in 2008. Up until that time it belonged to both my ex and me. The deal was that it would remain in both our names until he had finished paying his monetary obligation to me as stated in the settlement. Once he paid the debt, I was responsible for transferring the property to him. The debt was due the day the divorce was final. I’ve waited for three years now thinking that we both owned said property and that since it was attached to another tract and house that belonged to him, probably D was paying the taxes. He wasn’t. I realize I would have owed half the taxes either way but that sort of thing is usually ironed out at closing. And now D is saying that since I own the property he doesn’t have to pay the remainder of his debt. Excuse me! I don’t want the property or the taxes that go with it. I want the money.
I’m spitting nails and trying to talk myself into whatever is right in this situation. But the larger question is: Does his interference in my life ever end? Thank you for reading.