Living well is the best revenge. ~ George Herbert
When D and I first separated, a good friend of mine said this to me a number of times. It sounded right then. My gut instinct was to want some kind of revenge. Now that I have passed that stage I wonder if that’s really what George Herbert meant.
revenge: The action of inflicting hurt or harm on someone for a wrong suffered at their hands.
I think that the desire or need for revenge comes from anger or hatred. I’m happy to say that I feel neither toward my ex and his significant other. In fact, I never hated them. Life is too short or too long depending on your point of view. I readily admit, though, that I was terribly hurt–and angrier than I had ever been before. I’m happy to say that I now have a rather gentle acceptance of all that has taken place in my life and I think I am, for the most part, living well. And I have no need for revenge. But I’m left wondering how my living well should have anything at all to do with revenge. Or whether or not D and S are living well. I hope they are. I have no ill will. It’s gone, dissipated.
And life is good.
“gentle acceptance” comes across in many of your posts. Whatever happened to you. You have developed well from it. You are one of those people I have come across whose acceptance of life, and the desire to make the best of it without too much regret is inspiring and heart warming to me.
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You have your ‘revenge’ – you’re happy! 😉
Well done you.
xx
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