I’ve been thinking lately about divorce and its effect on our basic human needs. Now that I’ve refreshed my understanding of Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I’m not sure this was a good idea. I may get angry all over again. The effects are devastating, disastrous. No wonder I was such a basket case for so long. And no wonder those of you who are struggling along behind me by a year or two or three are still feeling like fish out of water. All areas on the pyramid are disrupted.
When I was reduced to struggling once again for simple physiological needs, I could function only partially at all the other levels. I didn’t feel safe, I couldn’t think straight enough to solve problems, I didn’t feel loved, my self-esteem was in the basement. I wasn’t living well, I was existing in survival mode.
I have only recently started to feel some level of self-actualization again. Take a look at this chart, if you haven’t in a while, and tell me what you think. Did your divorce have similar effects on your life? If the print is too small, just click on the image and enlarge it. (I’m sure you know that. I’m the one who’s techno-challenged.)