I’m a mom, a grandmother and a retired high school teacher. I am also divorced after 30 years of marriage to the man I considered the love of my life. My name is Pat. I decided to write about my divorce for several reasons. My altruistic reason is that I would like for others who have been dumped by their spouses to know that they are not alone, that they are entitled to every imaginable emotion and that they’re all normal under the circumstances. My selfish reasons are: I have kept journals throughout this journey and have discovered that I like to write. And I find it cathartic to write about my experiences.
My hope is that I will be able to help someone along the way. If so, it will be worth the writing.
I too have found writing very cathartic. On some of the ghastly sleep-deprived nights it’s the only way I can get back to sleep.
I have read some of your posts with interest. There are so many of us ‘out there’ who have been hit in the same way. It doesn’t make the pain any less – but having people who care and are egging us on to find new futures for ourselves does help.
Good luck
Caroline
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Thanks, Caroline. I have just begun to read some of your posts. I love your writing so I subscribed to your blog. I look forward to reading and following your progress.
Best of luck to you!
Pat
My name is Rosalind and I am a casting associate for a production company based in NYC. We are looking to speak to the married/divorced community regarding infidelity in marriages.
Please see below the casting notice we are hoping you will post on your site or share with others who may be interested in sharing their story to help someone else.
If you have additional questions please feel free to e-mail me.
Best.
Rosalind
Casting Associate
True Entertainment
The company that brings you, A Baby Story, Whose Wedding is it Anyway, Mystery Diagnosis… is now seeking married couples (or divorced) willing to share their stories for a groundbreaking new show.
Coming soon to a major cable network, this new television series will explore the psychology of infidelity. This is NOT a talk show; it is a documentary series and will take an impartial approach to the content.
The show will use first person narrative and psychological input to educate the viewers on the deep internal issues both parties deal with leading up to an affair and after the revelation.
We are currently looking for married couples who have dealt with a complex instance of infidelity and would be interested in retelling their story on our show. It’s important to us that the couples are well past the initial hurt and would be able to discuss their situation and resolution so others can learn from it. If you are interested in hearing more about the project or have any feedback please contact me atinfidelity.casting@gmail.com and I’d love to discuss everything in more detail.
Best,
Rosalind-
Casting Associate
True Entertainment
i am really enjoying your journey..thank you for sharing.
Thank you for reading, bee.
Hi, Pat – I just discovered you via countingducks and have been reading quite a few of your posts. I didn’t want to leave without saying hello and letting you know that I have subscribed to your blog. Your writing is very honest and the way you write makes me want to read more. Glad to have met you in cyberspace! BH
Thank you, BH for reading and for subscribing. Don’t you love countingducks! I just took a quick look at your blog. I’ll go back and read more later today. It’s an attractive and my first impression is that you’re very poetic. Can’t wait to read more.
I meant to say “an attractive blog.” I imagine you realized that.
Pat, I meant to send you an email but cannot find your address…
Just a very quick note to say that I’m thinking about you today. Hope all goes well.
xx
Lady E, thank you so much. The news is good. Some small cysts in the area my doctor pinpointed but nothing to worry about. Yippee!
Oh phew! So glad…Hope you get a chance for a mini-celebration tonight. I’ll have a drink for you !
I hope you had that drink before you went to bed. I’m all out of wine. I’ll have mine later.
I love your blog – I like your writing, and your reflections.
While my ex and I had only been together for 10 years, I really did think that I’d be with him until the end of time. It felt as though he’d reached into my chest and pulled out my heart. Now, 18 months on, I’m just beginning to relax into being single. And, I’m really enjoying it!
I shall come by again!
OG
Thanks, Old Girl, for stopping by and taking the time to comment. I look forward to checking out your blog this evening. Today I’m trying to be dedicated to cleaning house. That’s a tough one for me.
I’m happy that you’re starting to enjoy being single. I read somewhere at the beginning of my separation that, on average, it takes about a year for each 5 years you were in the relationship. Sounds like you’re right on schedule or even a little ahead. That’s truly wonderful.
Hell Pat. I just wanted to pop in to say I’ve just nominated you to receive the Versatile Blogger Award – congratulations. I nominated your blog because (as I’ve said in my post) reading your blogs, for me, is kinda like sitting down and having a cuppa with you. Anyhow a nice way to promote your blog. You can find out more via my link http://maturestudenthanginginthere.wordpress.com/2011/11/15/blogging-marvellous/
Jacqueline
Hi Jacqueline. Thank you so much for honoring me with the Versatile Blogger Award. I just had a cuppa in your honor. I’m trying to meet a couple of deadlines for some volunteer work I do so I will have to wait a few days before I can nominate and continue the process. That’s probably good because I can start jotting down blogs as they come to mind while I’m working on my tasks.
Thanks again,
Pat
Hi Pat!
To my recent comments about one of my daughters I would like to add a bit more. As I said, she raised twins and three daughters. And for many years she did it completely on her own! She was a very devoted mother. The friends of her children would often stay with them too. It was always a very welcoming home.
The twins moved in with girlfriends when they were still pretty young. One twin stayed with his girlfriend a few more years than the other. But they both ended up back home with mum, first one twin, then the other. They both have a good relationship with their half-sisters, who are all in their teens now.The teenage daughter of their mum’s new partner lives with them too. The twins however live on their own again. One twin is on the way to becoming a dad as we found out recently.
Cheerio, Uta.
Hi Uta.
I’m enjoying learning about your daughter. I’m going to respond by email, I think, when I have a little more time. Well, I have plenty of time now but I’m tired and going to bed. I think you were right initially when you said we (your dtr. and I ) have some things in common. I’ll elaborate later.
Later,
Pat
Hi Pat! Looks like you got me by 5 years. I was married for 25. I was a stay at home mom who luckily had a teaching degree to fall back on after the divorce. At age 51, I think I became the oldest newest teacher in the state..lol…Happy as a clam to be alone..Nice to meet you. Vickie
Hi Vickie. Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. “Happy as a clam to be alone”–I’m so glad you said that. When you’re married your whole adult life, it’s not easy to come to an acceptance of your alone-ness, let alone to be happy with it. I still get lonely but I usually go see a grandchild when I feel that way. Fortunately, I have some nearby.
Nice to meet you, too. Now I’m off to check out Jumping in Mud Puddles. Chuckle. I love the title.
Happy as a claim to be alone really sums it up. Having married at 19 and widowed at 60 I had always been part of a couple. Now I too am happy to be alone.
oops -happy as a clam not a claim. Wonder if a claim can be happy?
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Tag, You’re it! Come see what mess I’ve gotten you in. Love, Vickie